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Dance in the Rain

Each day we open our eyes with a new chance at life. No matter the day of the week or the hour your day begins, it’s a new chance, new opportunity. The day is not a guarantee that everything will be perfect, or that you have won the lottery. Instead it’s a chance to put the past behind you and focus on the present.

But how do you categorize a day as good, bad, or memorable? For me, I’m learning to focus on the highlights. Today for example, I got to wake up all on my own. No alarm, just my body waking up. When my eyes opened, I could see the sun peeking through the blinds.

I’m not one to lay on my bed when I wake up, so I climbed from my sheets and slipped on my house shoes. I gingerly made my way out of the bedroom so not to awake the dogs or my hubby.

Anyone who knows me, knows the coffee maker was brewing my first cup before I even wiped the sleep from my eyes. In 2 minutes and 34 seconds I was headed to my lanai, coffee in hand to take in the quiet sounds of a sunny Florida sunrise.

By the time my coffee was gone I was joined by my husband and our girls. The next couple hours we watched the news and had our second coffee. I’m not a huge fan of the news anymore, so I really only watch when the weather is on. Today they called for rain in the afternoon so we wouldn’t be doing the beach. I am actually almost giddy about the rain. I love a day at home, watching the rain. Maybe not days on end but the now and then rain is relaxing and I can use a day of relaxing.

I’ve been a little anxious lately, not really for any reason., so today I decided to do some deep cleaning. Sometimes when I feel this way, a good cleaning makes me feel better. It’s actually the end result that gives me the most satisfaction.

Todays project was kitchen SOS. It worked! I felt so good when it was done.

Shortly after the kitchen was done the rain came. Rain tickles the senses. The sound of rain is mesmerizing. I can hear it hit the window, tink tink tink. The drops hitting the pool, the trees, the roof each making a different, distinct sound. The smell of rain is so clean. It’s fresh and crisp. The air is cooler, the moisture and breeze providing relief to the heat. Then the thunder and lightning rolled in. Some may be afraid of it, and for many it’s a source of anxiety, but I LOVE me some thunder and lightning. I actually get the best sleep in a good thunder storm.

We had a wonderful dinner that my son and daughter in law made. What a blessing! The food was amazing, but even better was they did it for us.

I rate my day was great. It was not eventful but it was perfect for me. From the moment I woke up, I was able to enjoy things that make me happy.

Take a minute to count the little things in your day that give you joy. All those little things add up! Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to end my day with a dance in the rain!

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Green Shake

Protein shake – its good for you!

This shake is full of absolute goodness for you, but to taste it you would never know! Drink after a workout or as a stand-alone meal. You font want to miss out on this one 😍

1 cup almond or rice milk
1 heaping tsp almond butter
1 scoop protein powder
1 frozen banana
1 handful spinach
Blend until smooth

i like to add a scoop of collagen in mine

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Mask mandate lifted

I will miss the masks for a much deeper, more meaningful reason. For the first time in my lifetime, men now have a better understanding of what it is like to have to wear something that is restricting, sometimes suffocating, uncomfortable, and cumbersome. That’s right ladies, men now have an inkling of a feeling of what it is like to have to wear a bra. You know what I’m talking about. We have all had that total feeling of freedom when we walk in the door and unsnap that restrictive garment that makes us sweat in uncomfortable places, stretches out and suddenly just doesn’t fit right and in many social situations is frowned upon when not worn. Maybe we should start a petition to lift the Bra mandate too.

As mask mandates are being lifted and we say farewell to masks, people in general see this as progress or a return to normalcy. I for one am sad to see them go. But not because of the normal political or medical debates we see in the news or hear at the water cooler. Don’t get me wrong, when our daily debate can go back to who should retire from the NFL or which is better a Ford or Chevy I will feel like I’m existing in a more normal world and moving past masks will help with that.

Meanwhile, at least our men have felt our pain. Happy Sunday everyone. Laugh at the things you can’t change!

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Know your truth series

People pleasing

You can’t put a value on the gift of you

I LOVE SEEING PEOPLE HAPPY! It feels good to see others joyful and happy. If I am being honest, I have an unhealthy need to ensure others are happy. So unhealthy, it usually supersedes my own happiness. It could be a meal I cook, a gift I give, or a project at work. I almost always ask for feedback. It’s not because I am searching for compliments, I truly want to know if THEY liked it, if it made them happy.

In my life, I need to learn to be satisfied that I did something positive for them. I cooked for them, I chose a gift I thought they would appreciate. I need to understand that how someone receives my gestures is up to them. I don’t know why this is so difficult for me, or why I confuse giving with others happiness. I come from a generous and appreciative family, and I have raised my own children to appreciate the things in their life and people around them.

I guess in the end the reason I feel that way is less important than how I move forward, change my own behavior and way of thinking. Find satisfaction in knowing I put a hot meal in front of my loved ones, I did something for someone else to brighten their day, or I just put a little more effort or thought behind my actions. After all, I am not only giving them a tangible item, I am giving them a piece of my mind, my time, and myself. Maybe that is the real gift.

No-one knows how much time we have on this earth, and no tomorrow is promised. Taking a moment from your day to send a text, make a call, buy a gift, cook a meal, fold a shirt, or even say a prayer is a priceless gift. If I look at my actions and offerings like that, and those I do it for truly care about me, then I have given them something that can’t be measured in satisfaction. It is priceless and precious and that is truly the best of what I can give.

So this week I am going to start appreciating the moments I have and have to give. I am going to work to feel satisfaction in knowing I share some of these moments with the people I love both friends and family, and finally understanding that what I give is enough. It is up to the recipient to appreciate the value of it. Instead of allowing their taste for what I did to affect my giving, I am going to give what I can and find the satisfaction in just that. I will also be cautious of giving of myself to others who won’t appreciate it and save it for those who will cherish it.

Have a great week and remember, yesterday is heavy, let it go! Letting March in with new lenses!

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Know your truth series – pressure. Documenting my journey to better mental health

Pressure can be a good thing. It can push you further than you thought possible, helping you to achieve the potential you didn’t realize you had.
It’s the pressure from others’ actions you put on yourself that can be unhealthy. A fact of life: the only actions you have control over are your own. When I attempt to help someone, gifting them compassion and kindness, I have a tendency to subconsciously claim ownership in their next step. I create a personal investment in their success or their failure. This can affect my mood, my sleep, my work life and my home life.
It’s not always the big acts of physical labor or financial assistance. My actions could be something as simple as a prayer, words of encouragement or a wish for luck. Afterwards, I find myself following their journey as if it were my own. I would even go as far as admitting that not knowing how it ends devastates me too.
In order for who I am to work for me, I have to let go of the the way I think. The unhealthy connection I make to others’ journeys. I don’t mean not helping or not caring, but simply reminding myself that it’s not my journey, it’s theirs. Look at myself as a tool in their arsenal for venting, talking, listening, or just being. Their results, their actions, that’s what they own.
I need to practice giving unconditionally. I never realized that when I would give I was subconsciously looking to receive. I was seeking results in their success; satisfaction from their journey. The real way to give is to do it with the satisfaction that you simply offered a piece of you for a moment or moments of time. That is all, nothing more. It doesn’t mean you don’t care what happens to those around you. It just means that it’s their journey, their fight. My actions are my responsibility. My successes are my achievements. My failures are my lessons. To share my story is a gift.
I plan to continue being there for my friends, my family, strangers, and acquaintances, but I am also going to reflect on my interactions and make an assertive effort to take a step back. Let the chips fall where they may, and take less ownership in their results. Our legacy is about the impact we have in this world, not fixing everyone in it.

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Know your truth series

Documenting my journey to better mental health

Who am I? Easy question right? Not so fast! I asked myself this very question and the answers came flowing out I’m a daughter, a wife, a mother and a grandmother. I am kind, honest, and hard working. Easy! As I let my answer resonate, I began to realized that this is who I am in others eyes. While they are all true, they don’t answer the question WHO AM I?
When looking into yourself, evaluating your self, you can easily pop out answers, check the box and move on. When trying to determine your own truths for the sole benefit of bettering yourself or yourself, it takes on a whole different light. If you’re being honest, truly doing a deep dive into exploring who you or are, it’s surprisingly difficult. The brutal honesty it takes is exhausting and I imagine never evolving.
I am beginning this journey to learning my own truth and hope that it helps you to find your own. I can only better myself after I have figured out who I am.
After a lot of soul searching, reflection, and internal arguments, I see myself as a fixer and people pleaser. On the surface, these are great traits in a person. I feel a sense of accomplishment when I help someone. Whether I am lending an ear so someone can vent, offering up advice, or picking up the bill for the car behind me in the drive thru; I genuinely want to make a difference in someone’s life, or even just their day.
These things that I think make me who I am, also hinder me. When I cannot fix someone’s problem, when I see them continue to stumble or make bad choices, or when bad luck just seems to follow them, I have an innate desire to want to fix it. I own their failure as if it were my own. It’s almost as though my happiness depends on theirs.

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Drink your veggies

Carrot juice

I dislike vegetables.  Raw veggies I can do but When they are cooked we have a problem.  Needless to say I don’t intake my daily requirement of fruits and vegetables and rely on my vitamins to make up for it.  

I also have a serious sweet tooth.  It strikes morning noon and night, all day every day. These two vices pose a serious challenge when trying to eat healthier and shed some fatty fat fat.   

I may have found my solution.  Oh got a juicer.  I have blenders and the smoothie maker, but why not a juicer?  Kitchen gadgets may be my weakness, but that’s for another day.  

I researched some juice recipes and decided the first I would try is carrot juice.  Cooking the carrots is not requires so we are already starting off on a positive note in my book.  

Yep, my first concoction would be carrot juice.  Off to the store to load up on carrots, apples, and oranges.  

My guys in the meantime are pretty certain I lost my mind wanting to try carrot juice, knowing my dislike of veggies and have zero to no interest in carrot juice but they went along for the ride to show their support.  

I have owned my juicer for 3 days and have made four batches of carrot juice.  It’s gone as soon as I make it!  A glass of delicious fruits and veggies for me, and one for each of my guys.  Ha!  Not so crazy momma for the win!  

My hiccup came when I threw caution to the wind and added in some turmeric and ginger to boost the nutritional value.  Sooooo, let’s just say that is going to require some more research and serious tweaking.  Ike’s!   Maybe this batch will be health shots.  

Either way I am extremely satisfied with my newest kitchen gadget and the idea of taking in some serous vitamins.  I’m on the hunt for some new recipes and will keep you all updated the juice recipes we try!   Getting those veggies 🥕 

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Thank you for being a friend

Betty White 1950

Today would have been Betty Whites 100th birthday.  America morned her loss  just a little over two weeks before we would have celebrated with her.  So today we remember her and celebrate the beautiful mark she left on our world. 

She was a beloved actress, comedian, animal activist and friend.  

Age was but a number to her, and she had no intention of stopping.  She made us laugh and had an uncanny way of making sense of our confusing and sometimes scary world.  She survived multiple pandemics, saw 32 wars, survived three husbands, and she even holds the Guinness book of world records for longest career for female entertainers. 

Mrs. White didn’t just sit and watch tho, she served in WWII  in the American Women’s Voluntary Services.  She delivered supplies via a PX truck by day and night were spent at grand dances meant to give soldiers a grand send-off before they shipped out.  

Betty white was above all else kind.  She genuinely cared for people.  She was, in her every day life, what we all should strive to be if even just a little.  

Many will give to a animal rescue in her name and in honor of her love for animals.  She herself said if things hadn’t worked out in Hollywood, she would have become a zookeeper.  If you give in her honor, I applaud you.  

May I also suggest in honor of her nearly 100 years on this earth, and the hole she left behind in our hearts, we all try to be a little more like her.  Be kind, be a friend, do good because it makes you feel good.  Do for others because you can.  Say kind things, because they can change someone’s day.  Find the positive amongst a field of negatives.  Laugh because it’s contagious.  

Take note from the life of Betty White and try to be just a little better than you were yesterday. 

Thank you for sharing your life with us Mrs White and thank you for being our friend.  

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I Met Someone

I met someone. I knew I would eventually. At 48 years old, it happened. I am very excited, yet I had a difficult time putting into words what he means to me. These are feelings are like none I have ever felt before.

He has short dark hair and olive skin. He has the most beautiful, loving, innocent eyes. They are blue like the ocean. When he smiles at me, I see a sparkle like the sun reflecting off the whitecaps.

His smile could melt the heart of the grinch. He laughs at all of my jokes and loves to sit and talk. He is one of the best listeners. I can share my secrets, and only hope he will trust me with his. I have told him so many stories and he listens with baited breath, hanging on my every word.

He loves to snuggle, and will occasionally watch a movie, although he quickly looses interest and usually falls asleep.

He is a mommas boy, and to be honest, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I just adore his momma.

After some discussion on what our pet names would be for each other, we decided that I would call him my pumpkin pie, and he would call me his Gammie.

We were able to spend some amazing time with our grandson over the holidays, and since he left I have missed him something terribly. I only hope we will get you see him very soon, but until then I will FaceTime him and talk to him. Congratulations to my son and daughter-in-law on a beautiful baby boy and thank you for making me a Gammie. ❤️❤️

Pumpkin Pie
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Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

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Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

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Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.