17, 10, 2016

Surprise, I’m Back!



It’s been 6 months since I’ve written on my blog, and a lot has happened in that duration.

2016 has easily been the most difficult year of my life. Prior to this year, I was a girl that viewed everything in my life through rose colored lenses. I remember last semester learning about the concept of the “boy in the bubble”, a case in which a person feels that nothing bad could ever happen to them. That even though there are all these terrible situations occurring in the world to other people daily, the boy in the bubble was the one exception. He was invincible and would never experience a tragedy. I distinctly remember thinking to myself, “I’m clearly living in a bubble”. In my 21 years of life at that point, I never experienced anything that rattled my life. I never failed a course, I never had my heartbroken, I never experienced anything detrimental to my health, I never lost someone I cared about. To be honest, everything I worked for and wanted turned out in my favor. Up until this summer, I had my entire life planned out. I knew who I was and what I wanted in life. I knew where I was headed academically and professionally. I knew who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I knew my ambitions and passions. I had a pretty set life.

But things change, and for the the first time my eyes really opened up to what life really is like. Nothing is a guarantee in life, and as unfortunate as that is, it’s true. Change is constantly happening in the minor details of life and in the grand scheme of things. The biggest change for me was the end of my relationship with someone I wholeheartedly believed I was going to spend the rest of my life with. As I said, I never experienced anything prior that rattled my world. And this change flipped my world upside down. For the first time in a long time, I was really alone. I was really lost, and not because I lost someone and that caused me to lose my identity. But because with any change, it takes time to adjust. I started to become filled with doubt about many things in my life. My old thought process of “things always end up the way I want them to” rapidly changed to “nothing is guaranteed, and what happens if I fail again”. These past few months have been filled with the most troubling moments in my life, but at the same time, they are filled with some of the most memorable moments of my life.

I am somebody who likes to find the silver lining in everything. Things happen for a reason, and rather than wallowing in sorrow and regretting things you can’t change, it’s better to find the lesson you can learn and apply it to the future. So here is a quick compilation of things I have learned in this short, yet pivotal moment of my life.

  1. Life is too short to live unhappily. Do more of what makes you happy.
  2. With that being said, sometimes your happiness is the priority. So who cares what people think.
  3. Never settle for someone, and never let yourself be a person another settles for. You deserve to be loved and adored every moment of everyday.
  4. Through your darkest times, you’ll find the people in your life who truly care for you and the ones who didn’t really give a damn.
  5. Stick with your gut feeling, because 90% of the time you’re right.
  6. Don’t dwell in the past. Stop planning the future. Instead, live in the present and enjoy every moment.
  7. Don’t let others determine your value. You’re wonderful, you’re great, and you know you are.
  8. Just because something didn’t work out the way you wanted, doesn’t mean there aren’t better things coming your way.

I was lost for a while, but I think I found myself again. And I’m super happy to be back on my blog 🙂

  • Welcome back! Life is crazy and ever-changing and the only guarantee is change. I’ve been there, in that insane place of self doubt because of a failed relationship. It can feel like you’re lost but it can also free very freeing… you have the mobility now to go anywhere you want and do anything you want. Overwhelming yes, but liberating.

    • Yes! It’s definitely a liberating feeling. Everything is quite bittersweet, but more so on the sweet side 🙂

  • MoreMindfulYou

    Welcome back 🙂 best wishes


  • Deesa Patel

    Hi Mimi! This post was great! I just started a serious relationship and I always plan the future because I can’t really help it. I’m so sure we will work out but then I get scared that maybe life will happen one day and I will doubt him as well as myself. I know you’ve mentioned that you dated this guy for quite a while so may I ask what happened?

    • Hi Deesa!

      Out of respect for the other person in my relationship, I don’t feel comfortable saying publicly what happened. But congratulations on your new relationship 🙂 One of the biggest challenges for me in my past relationship was that I was too focused on the future and planning the future. While knowing what is to come is important, I’ve learned it’s more vital to enjoy the present moments with your partner. When you worry too much about the future, you create lots of expectations. With expectations comes disappointments 90% of the time. Enjoy your relationship and remember communication and trust is key. I wish you all the best! 🙂

  • Diana Y Nhu Nguyen

    Hey Mimi! I was on IG the other day and scrolling around and happen to landed on your page (I think we have a mutual friend, Lizzie?). I just want to say you’re such a great photographer and I really enjoyed reading your blog!

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